It ‘s better if they stare at each other.
Regarding the fuzzy dynamics of where the eyes should be focused during the dialogue, it is purely personal and quite “multiple.”
However, in many books on social guidance, it has been further elevated to the level of etiquette, becoming an equation with only “limited solutions” or even “only solutions.”
In a book of etiquette, experts carried out incredible quantitative guidance, saying that if two people talk face-to-face for 30 minutes, if the other person can watch you for 10 minutes, it must be “don’t put you in your eyes”Watching you for 10 to 20 minutes means that the other person is friendly to you.
When the gaze time exceeds the threshold of 20 minutes, the problem becomes more complicated, indicating that the other party knows you very well, but the possibility of “hostility” is not ruled out.
This puts forward a high standard for the function of the biological clock in our brain, requiring precision to the minute level. If we are not careful, we will be in danger of turning friends into enemies.
As for the geographical geological evidence that the eyes should look at a part of the opponent ‘s body, the book explained carefully that according to the point of fixation on different parts of the opponent ‘s body, the personality can be framed as “business-oriented”, “concerned”, “social”Type”, “intimate type” and other levels.
It can not help but secretly commit assault on comrades with high astigmatism.
Then I saw another suggestion that made me surrounded: a German interpersonal communication expert believes that the most correct trajectory in the dialogue is: first look at the other person’s eyes, then slowly move his eyes to the mouth,Return to the eyes.
I just want to know if there is too much range of sight, and I accidentally crossed my mouth and dropped my neck, would I be frivolous?
However, for quite a few people, locking their eyes on the limited parts of the other person’s body, in addition to facing ritual problems, comes from physical obstacles.
Usually when people talk face to face, often they can’t align their eyes on the face of the other person’s limited area as long as the etiquette expert wishes.
An article published in the November 2005 issue of “Memory and Cognition” stated that on some occasions, people may unconsciously look away, or “close their eyes slightly, look up at the sky”, or even “put their faceGo Aside. ”
This “eye-walking obsessive-compulsive disorder” is said to have multiple elements.
Scottish psychologist Phelps said the “eye-to-eye” act was seen as a signal of an “intimate” relationship.
When face-to-face “intimate” conversations around people who are not psychologically easy to get close to, the brain will spontaneously move your eyes to reduce the “intimacy index” of this interaction.
There are also experiments that show that the more “intimate” a person is in space, the less time they spend looking at each other, creating a balance.
However, evidence from Phelps and other researchers suggests that this “gaze-avoidance” behavior is more explained by cognitive science.
The reason is that the human face is full of complex and dynamic information. If you notice each other in your personality, you will occupy certain brain resources out of thin air, and the brain will be dull.
Suppose that Einstein’s “beauty and hot stove” question is changed a little, the answer may be two different: explain the theory of relativity to the beauty, and explain the theory of relativity to the stove.